Comments on: Are You Setting Yourself Up for Disappointment? http://naturalbias.com/are-you-setting-yourself-up-for-disappointment/ A better life through natural health, fitness, and personal development. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 20:12:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: ægil http://naturalbias.com/are-you-setting-yourself-up-for-disappointment/#comment-4606 ægil Sun, 06 Sep 2009 00:22:21 +0000 http://naturalbias.com/?p=7172#comment-4606 I actually read Stephen's article and I like Grampa Ken's comment! I actually read Stephen’s article and I like Grampa Ken’s comment!

]]> By: Vin http://naturalbias.com/are-you-setting-yourself-up-for-disappointment/#comment-4601 Vin Sat, 05 Sep 2009 22:31:00 +0000 http://naturalbias.com/?p=7172#comment-4601 Thank you all for your comments! Stephen - You're quite welcome. I learned quite a bit from your article! ægil - That's a great perspective and I particularly like how you relate embracing uncertainty to the elimination of obsession. Great insight! Grampa Ken - Well said! Enjoy the moment. :) Thank you all for your comments!

Stephen – You’re quite welcome. I learned quite a bit from your article!

ægil – That’s a great perspective and I particularly like how you relate embracing uncertainty to the elimination of obsession. Great insight!

Grampa Ken – Well said! Enjoy the moment. :)

]]> By: Grampa Ken: Social Fix http://naturalbias.com/are-you-setting-yourself-up-for-disappointment/#comment-4595 Grampa Ken: Social Fix Sat, 05 Sep 2009 15:45:46 +0000 http://naturalbias.com/?p=7172#comment-4595 Vin it's so important that we not devote our lives to expectations that may not work out the way we expect, or may require too much of our life right now. Much the same as not hanging on to past regrets, mistakes or guilt. We just can't enjoy life like this. Henry Ward Beecher put it neatly: "No matter what looms ahead, if you can eat today, enjoy the sunlight today, mix good cheer with friends today, then enjoy it and bless God for it. Do not look back on happiness or dream of it in the future. You are only sure of today; do not let yourself be cheated of it." - Vin it’s so important that we not devote our lives to expectations that may not work out the way we expect, or may require too much of our life right now. Much the same as not hanging on to past regrets, mistakes or guilt. We just can’t enjoy life like this.

Henry Ward Beecher put it neatly: “No matter what looms ahead, if you can eat today, enjoy the sunlight today, mix good cheer with friends today, then enjoy it and bless God for it. Do not look back on happiness or dream of it in the future. You are only sure of today; do not let yourself be cheated of it.” -

]]> By: ægil http://naturalbias.com/are-you-setting-yourself-up-for-disappointment/#comment-4572 ægil Sat, 05 Sep 2009 02:19:57 +0000 http://naturalbias.com/?p=7172#comment-4572 So we do not need to let disappointment victimize us, It is better to think of opportunities. My biology teacher taught me that decisions shape our life. I believe many people (including me) forget choices are everywhere. It is about embracing uncertainty. I believe many people just do not make educated thoughts about uncertainty, so they are phobic about it. I realized acceptance is just the <i>first</i> step (it is like knowing yourself), the next step is to do something about it based on what you know and allow space for uncertainty. I also link embracing uncertainty to eliminating obsession and being proactive. So flexiblity is key. Many people do not realize how flexible perspective is. When we face a dire situation, we keep saying we do not have other choices, but analyzing those situation, I find that we always make the most rational choice (or so). So we mean there is no other (rational) choice. So I realized, there is no such thing as 'no choice', choices to possibilities are everywhere. We only have the innate ability to rationalize those choices based on our knowledge, So learning helps improve rational thinking. Personal development materials improved my rational thinking. example: When I become offended I ask myself, "what is the use?", I decide to be calm rather than wasting my energy (and my fragile body's resources) swearing and arguing in vain. The ability to decide comes from Stephen's article and your article and my analysis. I have yet to exercise what I have thought in this comment. So far it is a good start! So we do not need to let disappointment victimize us, It is better to think of opportunities.

My biology teacher taught me that decisions shape our life. I believe many people (including me) forget choices are everywhere. It is about embracing uncertainty. I believe many people just do not make educated thoughts about uncertainty, so they are phobic about it.

I realized acceptance is just the first step (it is like knowing yourself), the next step is to do something about it based on what you know and allow space for uncertainty. I also link embracing uncertainty to eliminating obsession and being proactive. So flexiblity is key. Many people do not realize how flexible perspective is.

When we face a dire situation, we keep saying we do not have other choices, but analyzing those situation, I find that we always make the most rational choice (or so). So we mean there is no other (rational) choice.

So I realized, there is no such thing as ‘no choice’, choices to possibilities are everywhere. We only have the innate ability to rationalize those choices based on our knowledge, So learning helps improve rational thinking. Personal development materials improved my rational thinking.

example: When I become offended I ask myself, “what is the use?”, I decide to be calm rather than wasting my energy (and my fragile body’s resources) swearing and arguing in vain. The ability to decide comes from Stephen’s article and your article and my analysis.

I have yet to exercise what I have thought in this comment. So far it is a good start!

]]> By: Stephen - Rat Race Trap http://naturalbias.com/are-you-setting-yourself-up-for-disappointment/#comment-4571 Stephen - Rat Race Trap Sat, 05 Sep 2009 00:02:40 +0000 http://naturalbias.com/?p=7172#comment-4571 Vin, thanks for the link. I think you approached this very well. I really think figuring out how to navigate this issue is a key to happiness and well-being. Vin, thanks for the link. I think you approached this very well. I really think figuring out how to navigate this issue is a key to happiness and well-being.

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